How Did You Know When You Were Done Having Kids?

By  April 26, 2014


My pregnancies were tough, my life is completely chaotic with two children, and I am acutely aware of how expensive it is to add another baby to the mix.

Yet, for at least a few days every month, I feel these twinges of longing for pregnancy, and for the sweet scent of a newborn baby.

I’ll be turning 35 this year and I feel like it’s time to make a decision. Are my husband and I going to call baby-making quits with the two great kids we have, or, are we going to add just one more baby to our family?

I don’t want to hear any quips about multiples, you’ll probably jinx me!

Every time I think that I’m completely sure of my answer, something inside me changes. I am in constant flux about the desire to have another baby and that scares me a little. Will the urge for a baby continue through my thirties and into my forties?

Does it ever end? Does a mother ever stop feeling that pull?

I’m beginning to realize that my monthly baby-fever may be hormonal. I notice that I begin daydreaming about baby names a few days before I ovulate, and I know that there’s a biological reason for that (good one, Mother Nature!). It makes me feel a bit like I’m swimming upstream.

Everything in my logical mind tells me that it’s time to put the idea of another baby away. I question whether I could handle another pregnancy, physically, as I suffered with hyperemesis gravidarum with both of my previous pregnancies.

I know that there are many women having children in their late thirties, forties and even beyond, but I’m not sure if that’s for me.

How did you know when you were done having kids?